5 Steps to Help Your Children Overcome Fear

As parents, our greatest vision is to have children who have a positive sense of self with enough self-confidence to navigate the challenges of life. Life experience has taught us that at times, we are faced with situations which create fear preventing us from moving forward. One of the greatest gifts you can give to your children are the skills and tools to deal with their own fears to do more in their own lives. This creates a foundation they will draw from daily as they create a life they love.

#1 Fears are normal

The first step in this process is to explain to your children fears are normal. By acknowledging we all have fears within our own mind-body system and expressing this to our children we take away the “scary” thoughts which prevent us from addressing what we are afraid of. We become aware we have nothing to be ashamed of when we realize everyone has fears, be it our parents, colleagues, peers or anybody around us.

#2 See the fear

If we want to be able to release or overcome our fears we need to know exactly what the fear is we are dealing with at any age. It is important to have the words and vocabulary to describe these. Some common fears are fear of not being good enough and failure and not being accepted. There are many! Guide children through a process of asking themselves “what am I
afraid of ?”It is important to know which fears are limiting them in their lives. If they do not know the fear, it remains hidden and cannot be dealt with appropriately. Assist them to write or draw a list of fears they feel are making them feel stuck, anxious or overwhelmed and keeping them from
being happy and peaceful. This is a start to release and let go of what they fear most.

#3 The best reason to overcome fear

Overcoming fear is often a challenging process. It can take time and requires us to draw on our inner strength. For this, we need motivation, inspiration, and grit. Help children to connect with a sense of inner purpose, passion, and dreams in their life to give them the desire to overcome whatever obstacles may lie in their path, including fear.
The greatest inspiration we can have is our own dreams, passions, and goals in life. Dreams are beautiful and intimate and will change as we learn and grow as individuals. It is important to always have a dream at any age. Encourage children to go within themselves and dream. Get children to close their eyes and use their imagination to see their dreams, write or draw them down and come up with an action plan to make them real.

#4 Action to overcome fear

Once we know what our children’s fears are and we have connected them with the inspiration or a reason to overcome them, they have a base from which to work. Times will arise along their life journey which will require them to push through the boundary of the fear, freeing them from the hold it has over them. I personally know this opportunity is nearby when I feel “butterflies” or energy moving within me. This happens at different times when I need to face fear.

After we take action to face the fear the feeling dissipates, and we build an extra sense of confidence moving forward. Help children to understand this and to know all we can do is our best in life. Teach them to let go of trying to control the outcome of situations or meet everyone’s expectations outside of themselves.

#5 Power of the mind

Visualization techniques have been proven to work on many levels in the brain and body. Using these techniques are extremely beneficial for children and adults in letting go of fear and anxiety. Fear rests in the mind and body; therefore, we can teach children and ourselves to use the mind as a tool to become free. Go within and see where and how the fear rests in the body, and use the power of the mind to release the fear and all the things associated with it.

In my book “ Freeing Freddie the Dream Weaver Workbook and Activity Book” I have incorporated specific visualizations which are easy to access and use from our website. Children are more perceptive than we realize and they often model themselves more on how they see adults behaving than what adults tell them to do. Live by the ways you want your children to be in the world. Teach children to have self-love and compassion for themselves and others. When we are filled with love and compassion there is no room for fear. Be kind and loving to them and others and they will learn the same behavior.

A note about the author:

Brent Feinberg is an integrative healer and author, born in Johannesburg South Africa. Through many years of experience and studying, he has developed a great understanding of consciousness-based health care and wellbeing. Brent is a best-selling author and speaker. “Freeing Freddie – The Dream Weaver” is Brent’s first set of books which have now sold thousands of copies.

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